You Are Not A Burden

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I wish he could take back the one decision that is impossible to take back. Everything else is fixable. Life is hard and depression sucks. But I promise you can do it. You are strong enough. Seek out help. He could have done it. He was strong. I’m broken. I miss him. Please don’t allow yourself to make a decision that will break so many even if it seems like the only logical choice at the time. Please don’t allow yourself to get to that point. The only one who knows what is going on in your head is you. No one can help you if you don’t tell someone. But people want to help. People do love you. YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN. YOU ARE NOT A HASSLE. YOU ARE NEEDED. Stop this trend. Stop the chain. Talk about it. Please do not do this.

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Denny’s Obituary

Dennis George Bates II 1983 ~ 2019 Dennis “Denny” George Bates II unexpectedly took his own life on March 23rd, 2019. He was born in Ames, Iowa on October 14, 1983, to Esther Bates-Baker and Dennis Bates. Denny was raised in the small town of Mount Pleasant where everyone knew him and his funny, eccentric personality. He had six siblings who adored him, just as he adored them. As the eldest brother, he took it upon himself to tease and annoy these siblings as much as possible, but he would loyally protect them from anyone else. Growing up, Denny played the trombone, was on student government, and was the life of every party. He sang in the top choirs in school, played soccer for a season, and was an Eagle Scout and a Seminary graduate. He began college at Iowa Wesleyan University, then moved out to Utah and completed his Business degree at Utah Valley University. Denny spent the last 15 years here in Utah, making friends everywhere he went. He was someon...

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